Posted by: krittikae | August 10, 2011

Mom’s Journal part 6

*editorial note – all spelling, punctuation, and super long paragraphs are solely the work of the author.*

Mon Mar 1, 1982

Boy, what a day! I had to be at the hospital at 9:00 this morning for a non-stress test on the baby. The doctor also wanted me to have an ultra-sound scan and amniocentesis. During the scan, I could see the baby’s head, it’s heart beating, it’s spine, a little leg and foot, and a hand opening and closing. Ed said Thumper knew it was on “TV” so it was waving to mommy. It was really neat! Dr Tantoco came in to do the amnio thing and said look at the size of that head! It must be really large. He did the test, numbed the spot and then inserted a needle to draw out fluid. It didn’t hurt at all, just a funny pressure. Then he asked if Wednesday was OK for a C-section. I said sure! I’ll be glad to hold this squirt – even if it means a sore tummy. Also, I’ve started to dilate so I could go into labor, which he doesn’t want. The amnio test result will be back Tues. afternoon so I have to call his office. The only reason why he wouldn’t go ahead, is if the baby’s lungs are not mature enough. I don’t really see that to be a possibility. I can’t decide if I should ask what the sex is or not. I’m leaning toward NOT. I’m not sure though. I’ve been so excited today. It’s 10:15pm and I’m not sleepy. I know I need to rest & sleep. I don’t want to be tired tomorrow. It sure is a big relief to know tomorrow is my last day to be pregnant. As much as I’ve complained, I’m sure I’ll miss it when I cannot be pregnant any longer.

He’s going to do a tubal ligation at the same time. 4 children is enough, and 6 pregnancies is too. I can just be happy with my children and enjoy the pregnancies of others. So if the test results are OK, I have to be in the hospital at 3:00pm on Tues. Mar 2 andour last child will have Mar 3 as a birthday. I’m taking my journal with me in the hospital so I can record my feelings & thoughts. I hope I have time to write. More later. (*editorial note – I have always absolutely loved that my birthday is March 3. Way to go Mom!)

Tues Mar 2

Here I am at the hospital. I came in about 4:00pm and its now 15 til 9. My C-section is tomorrow morning at 7:45am. The baby should be here around 8am. Ed’s going to be in the delivery room. I’m not sure he wants to but I want him to hear the baby when I do. I think he’s going to give the baby its first feeding – glucose water. He’s excited about that. The baby’s heartbeat was 152 when I was admitted so I’m sure the baby is a girl. But girls are nice. There are 4 girls and 2 boys in the nursery now so that points to it too. I had company tonite – Ed brought Andi & Jenny up to see me. It sure was nice but I got misty-eyed when Andi said a prayer for our family prayer. It was sweet & touching. I just called home to let them know I had a phone now. I talked to Beth. She really sounded cute. She asked if I’d had my operation yet. I told her in the morning. It snowed again, about 3″. Tonight is the last night I will look like I swallowed a watermelon. Tomorrow I will be able to hold this baby. I can hardly wait! I’m going to stay up to watch TV until 10:00pm or so then go to sleep. I’m kind of tired so I want to get a good night’s sleep. Also – this will be the last time in a long time I’ll be able to sleep all night thru. I won’t mind though. I love this child so much. I can’t wait to kiss it and hold & cuddle it. Tomorrow -it won’t come soon enough.

Mar 4, 1982

Yesterday – Kristen Kae Stephenson was born at 8:13am by C-section. Bryan Community Hospital is very nice. The doctors & nurses are nice. Kristi is so adorable. She’s tall & thin (like Jenny) but weighed 9#1 oz. Her eyebrows make a kind of ^. They grow up at the outer edge. She looks impish. She’s so sweet & loveable. We love her so very much!!

Sat. Mar 6

Well, here I am in the hospital and ready to go home – believe it or not! Dr Tantoco came in last night and said whenever I felt like it, I could go home. I said I felt terrific, which I do, so he said I could come home today. My sides and stomach don’t hurt nearly as bad today. I got a really good nights sleep last night. My milk came in yesterday so my breasts are very full and tender. Backing up a bit – on Tues. night I really didn’t sleep well. I had to get up at 5:00 am to start my day. I took a shower (my last for a while), the nurse inserted a catheter and shaved my stomach. The anesthesiologist came in about 6 am and started my IV, and explained what would be done. He was really nice. Ed got here about 7:15 am. At 7:45 they took me into the delivery room & Ed went to scrub and dress. Larry (the anesthesist) gave me the spinal & rolled me onto my back. He keptchecking me with a pin prick to see how high up I was numb. When he was satisfied, he draped a bar in front of me and in came Ed.

He said surgery had already started when he came in but I didn’t realize it. It just felt like someone was pushing and rubbing my stomach. It wasn’t too long until we heard the suction. That was the first time I realized the C-section had started. Larry told me – now it will feel like pushing & pulling – they were working the baby out. It was not uncomfortable at all. I heard the baby gurgle – trying to cry and could see it in the reflection of the light above me. Larry asked a couple of times – what is it? Is it a girl? Then he told us – it’s a girl and she looks big. I was so happy the tears rolled out of my eyes. The pediatrician (Dr Hess) checked her out to make sure she was OK, then someone brought her over for us tosee & touch.

She did look kind of chubby with a round face & head. They took her to the nursery and Ed had to leave. Dr Tantoco asked me if I still wanted the tubal & I said yes. While he was doing that I started to feel sick to my stomach but it passed in a couple of minutes. Then my nose plugged up and my mouth dried out. That’s typical of the medicine given me. Larry (bless him) asked someone for a wet rag and he let me wet my mouth & lips. That really helped. Everything was done so quickly, I was really amazed! I was in the recovery room by 9:00 or 9:30 am. Ed got to hold Kristen. I could have too but I had to lay still on my back. I was so groggy and sleepy I didn’t feel like holding her. She weight 9# 1 oz and was 21 ¼ ” long. Her head was 14 1/8″ around so it was probable that I would not have been able to deliver her. As soon as I could wiggle my toes, the nurseputelastic stockings onme to helpprevent blood clots. When my 8 hrs of laying flat was over, they gotme up outof bed. I had to sit in a chair while htey fixed my bed. They made me walk to the nursery and back, pushing the IV cart and the nurse carrying my urine bag. That was quite an experience. It’s like you’ve never walked before. The next morning they took the catheter out so I could get up on my own. My IV also was out after the 2nd bag of IV fluids. Now the stream of nurses with blood pressures, temps, pulses, prodding my sore stomach & giving me helpful information came. A nurse from the Pediatricians office came to bring me a paper to explain about Kristen’s dr. visits and new foods, etc.

Flowers & visitors came. Andi & Jenny came up & thought Kristen was cute. Other visitors were: the Elders, Cindy Wright (Andi’s friend), Tonya (Jen’s friend), Carol Malone. Jan Connor tried to come but was too early for visiting hours and couldn’t stay. Ben Dorsey (our newhome teacher) was here, hisdad Pres. & Sis Dorsey & Vicky came, Mom Stephenson and of course Ed. Beth came in last night to see Kristen. The nurses put a chair up by the window and Beth stood on it and looked at the baby. She didn’t seem to sure about everything. She didn’t want much to do with Kristen but I think she was kind of scared by the hospital. She was happy to see me. I think that is what bothered her the most. I gave her the present from Kristen and the suckers. She liked that. When I found out last night that I could go home today, I called home. When I talked to Beth, she was really excited about us coming home. She gets to be the first to hold her, so that will help. Dr Tantoco just came in again to make sure I felt good enough to go home. I feel lots better today than I even did yesterday. My stomach hurts less.

I saw the respiratory therapist so I’ll have to do my breathing exercises soon. Dr Jackson (from Pediatrics) just came in with Kristen and checked her out. She passed with flying colors. I think there is another lady in labor right now. Ed said there were about 10 people in the delivery room withus. I knew it had been busy, I just didn’t realize how many. The day nurse just came in with 2 big bags of baby goodies. There are 3 pkgs of diapers plus lots of other good things. Mom & Leila & Judy sure will be surprised to see me home. Sis Murray (respiratory) just was here and I did my breathing exercises. It was lots easier to do this time. The other therapist told me 5 or 6 was the highest (on high level) that she’d ever seen anyone do. Gosh – it’s almost 9 am. Ed will be here at 10:00 and I still have to nurse Kristen and get ready. I want to have a little time to relax when I get home. More later. – –

Posted by: krittikae | July 8, 2011

Mom’s Journal part 5

*editorial note – all spelling, punctuation, and super long paragraphs are solely the work of the author.*

Wed Feb. 17, 1982

I didn’t get to finish on the 12th and just haven’t written again. Yesterday it was really foggy so Andi & Jen had a 2-hr. delay, then school was cancelled. The fog didn’t lift until afternoon. Then last night it rained and rained, then froze. It started out this morning with another 2-hr delay then cancelled again. Andi needs to go back to school. She was a real snotty person this morning – very smart mouthed and sassy and even said I had no right to boss her, I could not tell her what to do and what not to do. So – I made her go to her room. She’s been there all morning and it sure is peaceful! I’ll have to talk to Ed about it.

Yesterday was my Dr appt. When he saw my big belly he said “Boy – are you pregnant!” I said ‘I know’ and he said “No, I mean REALLY pregnant!” It was really funny. The baby is still breech but this week he said it as a big baby. So – here goes another Beth at 9 ½#. He asked me if I minded if a student came in – I said I didn’t, so he called a girl named Ann to come in. He asked her to check and see what position the baby was in. She was really embarrassed but began feeling the baby. She felt the head and sait it was either the head or the bottom. Dr said “You’re not very decisive, are you?” She decided it must be the bottom. Dr Tantoco explained about the baby’s head being firmer and broader. He said the baby as breech. He showed her where the back was, and let her feel the knee. It was fun for me, but I felt sorry for her. I hope she makes a good doctor someday. I asked him about a cesarian. He said usually 7 or 8 times out of 10 you can deliver normally but that the risk of brain damage is so high we need to be safe. Since the baby is still breech and big we will probably go the cesarian way. Also, since I’m having a tubal ligation – it would be just as easy to have a C-section & do them at the same time. That way we would not risk the baby having any brain damage. I want the baby to have every possible chance it can for good health. I’m anxious for things to get going. It’s so hard to feel this little life inside you kicking and moving and to not be anxious to hold it, cuddle it, kiss it, nurse it, etc. It’s so hard to be patient! I wishI knew when I would go into labor. It would help to know if I had only 4 days or 1 week left. I guess I’ll just have to wait.

Tues. Feb 23, 1982

Well, I’m still here and I’m still pregnant – VERY pregnant. I’m beginning to believe it will be March before this baby comes. I was very depressed last night. I felt super all day except for a backache. I got all the laundry done, plus some dishes too. The house is all clean & ready for my hospital trip. Well – I was happy & fine until Andi & Jen started to fix supper. They kept asking questions, arguing and I kept getting angrier. Supper was very quiet and subdued. I folded some clothes and took them into our bedroom and turned out the light to come back & do more laundry. All of a sudden I felt so depressed that I sat don on the bed and cried & cried for about 15 min. Ed told the girls to be quiet because I was laying don. That made me cry more. Then when I’d just about stop, I’d start again. Then I heard Ed doing dishes for me and I felt bad & cried again. Baby blues I guess. When I was finally able to stop, I went out & helped dry dishes for Ed. We worked at them for a while until I noticed Ed’s feet & legs were bothering him so we quit. I went to bed at 10:30pm and didn’t wake up until 2am or so. I had to go to the bathroom at 5am, went back to bed until 6:30. I got the girls up for school, went back to bed and slept until 10:00am. When I got up I felt SUPER! I must have been overtired. I did more dishes today – have them almost done, plus a couple of loads of laundry. I’ve had a backache all day, plus a crampy feeling but do not think I’m going into labor. Tomorrow morning is my Dr. appt. and I’m going to ask him to just admit me and do the C-section. There are complications with the surgery but if I decided to try to deliver normally and there were problems, I’d never forgive myself! We’ll see what he says. I am so uncomfortable I can’t see being able to function or sleep for much longer. Ed’s mom called tonight. She asked if I thought I’d have the baby before Monday. She has a doctor appointment on Friday and is getting her taxes done Monday. We’ll see what the Dr. says in the morning. Beth was born on my Grandpa Good’s birthday and the 26th is my Grandpa Keller’s birthday. Any day would be fine though. Beth’s birthday was last Friday. We celebrated it on Thursday night. She had a Strawberry Shortcake cake. She liked her presents. I hope her birthday was a happy one. I had wanted to have a birthday party for her but with not knowing when Thumper would arrive, I didn’t feel like I could plan it. Maybe next year I can give her one.

Sun. Feb 28

Almost a whole week has gone by and I haven’t written. Everyone is at church and I have dinner in the oven. I even made a chocolate cream jellyroll for dessert, to surprise everyone. There was supposed to be choir practice, for the Easter cantata. I won’t be singing. Easter will probably be the first Sunday I am back at church. I have a non-stress test tomorrow at the hospital. They’ll monitor the baby to see if its’ in any stress. Then I have a Dr. appt after that. I called Dr Miller in Bowling Green. He was my OB doctor with Beth. I found out he’d moved my due date ahead 3 weeks. That’s why I wasn’t late with Beth. It would put this baby due around the 12th or 13th of March. I’m not sure if I’ll tell the Dr or not. I think I’ll wait and see what he says on Monday. The baby is still breech so I don’t know if he would induce labor or not. I am uncomfortable but I’ll survive, knowing it’s almost over. Thumper has been really active today! Busy, busy, busy! It’s making my stomach tired. I’d sure like to go visit family but Ed says no – I would get too tired. He’s right, but I sure miss everyone. I’m so tired of being stuck in this house. Even if I do get out, I get too tired to walk much. So here I sit. I’ve started a white baby sweater for Judy and a green, yellow & white baby afgan for Mic & Jenny McKarns. It’s been something to keep me busy. Well, I had a break. Ed had run some scout stuff out to Jim Davis so he took me along. We went to Defiance to get gas (4¢ cheaper than in Bryan) then went to see Independance Dam & the lock. We got a pop and headed home. I said I didn’t remember ever being in Edgerton so we drove over there, then home. We were gone about 2 hrs. It was a really nice drive. I sure appreciated Ed being so thoughtful of my feelings. I sure do love him! Mrs Stark’s mother brought over 1/3 of a strawberry pie for me. It sure was nice of her. My spirits are so much better. I’m going to try to write daily at least until the baby comes, then whenever I have free time.

Posted by: krittikae | June 3, 2011

Mom’s Journal part 4

*editorial note – all spelling, punctuation, and super long paragraphs are solely the work of the author. I type it as I see it.*

Sat. Jan 23, 1982

Last night did we ever have a surprise! All the Branch members surprised us with a baby shower. Dennis & Barb Taylor asked us to their house for dessert & to get to know us better – or so they said. When we got there, I heard a noise and turned around to see Janice Tea, then Roger Tea, Larry & Maureen Zetterlind, and Mic & Jenny McKarns. They all yelled ‘surprise’! Boy we really were! After we sat down, Roger said they wanted to make sure they had the shower before the baby was born. Since Mic & Jenny just found our they’re expecting we talked a lot about babies. We played 2 games of stork bingo (I won the 2nd) and then played a game where by drawing 3 lines, had to separate 10 babies into their own “playpens”. It was really hard but Ed figured it out. We got candy bars as prizes. Then they brought out this pile of presents. I sure was surprised! We got some very nice things. Zetterlinds gave us a 90 ct. box of Pampers; Taylor’s gave us a Mom’s Brag Book and had a beautiful 3-tier pink & blue decorated cake for refreshments; the Tea’s gave us a handmade padded picture frame and a pint jar filled with cotton balls and topped with a counted cross-stitch cover, and a small stuffed pillow with baby cross stitched on it (to hold safety pins.) They’re all so cute & creative! McKarns gave us a very creative and different gift. Jenny took an old pair of panty hose and stuffed them with a dozen diapers – formed likea baby. Then it was dressed in a little jogging suitwith cloth tennis shoes and she even sewed a little face on it. It was really cute! I want to take a picture of it before I take it apart. Sue Davis called today and apologized for not beingable to make it. I have to get some thank you cards and get them sent out. Today has been a boring day. We got groceries this morning – it rained all last evening, then froze so the roads were a sheet of ice. I don’t know if they’ll have church tomorrow or not, the temperatures are supposed to stay cold. Right now at 2:40 pm it’s 18° F. It’s really windy too. At least the snow won’t drift cause it’s covered with ice. Andi didn’t have Super Saturday today because of the roads. Jenny has had a friend, Angie Sidle, here from school yesterday til today. We’re going to take her home soon. I have to stop at Lane’s to pick up a few things anyhow – Later —

Wed Jan 27, 1982

It was sunshiny & bright yesterday and it is today too. It looks so nice & cheery! Andi & Jenny didn’t have school Monday or Tuesday because the back roads were one glare of ice. They had an hour delay today so the drivers could see the roads better. It was nice having them home but I’m glad they went back today. It’s supposed to get up into the 30’s today. It’s getting more and more uncomfortable to carry this child around. I don’t think I’m as big as I was with Beth. According to my calculations next Sunday (Jan 31) begins my 39th week. I should only have 2 weeks left. By counting 280 days from the first day of my last period the 280th day should be around Feb. 14th so that would be the beginning of my 41st week. Time is getting short and I’m looking forward to it being over. I’m not looking forward to the labor & delivery but the end result will be my youngest child – a new life, a spirit from Heavenly Father come to live with us.

Tues Feb 2,1982

We didn’t have church again this past Sun. Another blizzard hit Saturday night. Sunday night & Monday there was a travel ban on the roads. The authorities were arresting anyone who was on the roads for anything  but an emergency. Andi & Jenny didn’t have school, and Ed couldn’t get the car out to get to work. None of the roads had been plowed yet. About 7:15 am the phone rang and it was Ed’s boss, John Essman. Ed told him our road had not been plowed and he didn’t want to be arrested for being out. John asked if Ed would go to work if he’d come get him. Ed said yes so a few minutes later John came in his 4-wheel drive truck. I guess John picked up 3 people, another guy came on a snowmobile and John worked. That’s all that were there. About 11 am Mrs Stark came over and asked if Ed was here. She wanted someone to move the car so the drives could be plowed out. I said I didn’t want to go out – the snow was too deep. She said she’d move it and put it back – so that’s what she did. There’smore snow coming tonight and Wednesday, possibly 3-4″ more. I hope the roads clear when the baby comes so Ed’s mom can get here. Our last Lamaze class is tonight. I hope Linda (the instructor) doesn’t postpone it, I want to get it over with. Last night I had some strange news. I’m being released from the Stake Primary Board because Sister Mortensen is being released. She’s been called to be Relief Society Pres. in Bowling Green. The stake leaders have no replacement in mind as yet so we’re sort of in limbo until something gets done.

Thursday Feb 4, 1982

Well, Tuesday is past. I had my doctor’s appointment Tues. afternoon. The baby’s heartbeat sounded really fast but neither the doctor or I had a second hand. He said it sounded around 150 though. The babyis still breech and he didn’t think it would turn. He said there was still a lot of fluid so it was possible. He hinted that we might have longer to wait. We talked to our Lamaze instructor and she said that we probably could opt for Cesarian when delivery time came. We could choose to have the baby normally but could risk brain damage. I want to give this child every possible GOOD chance I can and if that means C-section – so be it. I would like to try this last labor & delivery all on my own, no anesthetic. Maybe I should have a blessing that the baby will turn around. I didn’t gain any weight last week so still have only gained 8¾#. I eat like a horse – whenever I’m hungry. I feel proud of myself. Our tour of the hospital was interesting & helpful. We didn’t get to see the 2 delivery rooms or the 3 labor rooms because they had all the labor rooms full of laboring moms. But we did see the nursery and one of the patient rooms. The patient rooms are small but private, and each one has it’s own bathroom & closet. I’m getting so anxious to get this over with and hold my babe!

Wed Feb 10, 1982

Well, yesterday was another Dr. appt. I gained ¾#. He took the baby’s heartbeat and it was 140. My cervix is still thick & closed not starting to efface or dilate. Dr. said maybe next week I’d show some change. The baby is still breech. I had a blessing Sunday so I feel alot better, more relaxed. If it turns – OK, if not – OK. I’ve been feeling a little better at times recently. Sometimes I still get achy & stiff but I guess I can stand it for a couple of weeks more. Maybe the baby will be born on the 26th, that’s my Grandpa Keller’s birthday. The Dr. said the baby may be small or else not really due yet. I wouldn’t want to wait a whole month more!

Fri Feb 12, 1982

Yesterday was a milestone. My firstborn turned 15 years old. It makes me feel old to have a 15 year old & expecting a baby. Am I crazy??? Ha! Ha!

Posted by: krittikae | June 3, 2011

Mom’s Journal part 3

*editorial note – all spelling, punctuation, and super long paragraphs are solely the work of the author. I type it as I see it.*

14 Jan 1982

12 days later! I read Ed’s journal tonite and it inspired me to get busy on mine. It seems that as I get older, I get busier. With Andi & Jenny’s school activities, Beth’s pre-school, church activities & family committments it gets busier. In Ed’s journal he mentioned that he conducted Fast & Testimony on Jan 6. He said he finally “browbeat” me into bearing my testimony. That’s not true. I don’t like to bear my testimony because I lose control of my emotions. It embarrasses me to cry. This is the only true church on the earth. When we attend meetings (weddings, etc.) at other churches, it amazes me – all the ceremony, etc. The elegant simplicity of our services are so comforting. Last fast & testimony was one of the few time Iactually felt the Holy Ghost prompting me to get up. It was a really good feeling. I was proud of myself for 1) being able to stand up and walk up front to the podium, and 2) being able to bear my testimony without crying. My voice wavered but I stayed in control. It was a lot easier than I thought and I intend to do it more often! I have a thought to put in here – it doesn’t apply to testimonies but it was a revelation to me. We visited with the Bowling Green Ward members on Dec 27th. It was nice being back & seeing old friends but I felt like an outsider. I did not feel like part of that ward anymore. It seemed like when we moved to the Defiance Branch, it was hard getting to know people, and to feel comfortable, but after a few weeks I did feel at home and now I’m glad I’m here and not still in the BG ward. Going back to BG was like visiting another ward not like coming “back home.”

We had our first Lamaze class Tuesday night. We discussed pregnancy and the changes in the mother’s body, plus breathing exercies. We did mild exercises and boy was I out of shape! I was so stiff and sore on Wed. it took me 2 hrs. after I got up to move and sit with ease. I still did my exercises today – lots better. Jenny’s teacher (Mrs. Karas) is in our class. She’s due the last of March. One lady is due Feb 11th, then we’re due the 18th. The rest are March. I’ve been alternating between huge spurts of energy during which I clean out and organize everything in the house. Then I’m lazy for awhile. I’ve washed & folded all the baby clothes except for a few diapers. I still need to pack my suitcase. I am so anxious for this child to be born. I’ve told the Dr.that I’d like to have this baby with no anesthetic at all. I don’t know if I can but I’d like to try. My next appt. is Jan 25th because the Dr. is on vacation the week before. He will check then to see if I’m dilating. I’ll just have to wait until ‘Thumper’ decides to make an apperance.

Sat Jan 16, 1982

Last night Ed& I drove to Bro.&Sis. Mortensen’s for a Stake Primary Christmas Party. The weather looked to be bad but wasn’t as bad as it could have been. We were the farthest away. Gibsons & Lewis’ from BG were there and we had a very nice evening. Sis Cynthia Haller went with us. We introduced ourselves, told our hobbies and an embarrasing or funny spiritual experience. It was a fun evening. Yesterday was a busy, busy day. Ed wanted me to take the car to K mart to get a muffler. I got there around 10 am and the service man said about a half hour. Beth & I shopped until 11:00 then went back to the service area. Our car was not even in the shop yet. I didn’t have a watch but we sat there a long time. When we finally got done it was 1:30 or 1:45 pm. The service man apologized but what could I do? Then I had to pick up Maureen to go visiting teaching. By the time we got back itwas time to go pick up Ed at 3:30. Ed &Iwent to the bank, then to Sears, then home to get ready for the party. What a day! I was sure glad it was over! Today is cold and very windy with traveler’s advisory. The temp is already below zero. It’s a little chilly in the house but bearable.Andi has the living room all straightened, Jen has the bathroom straightened and I’m doing laundry. Hopefully – the house can get cleaned today. Everyone’s been doing really well keeping it clean – except for me when I have days like yesterday. Today is a day for work so I’ll get busy for now.

20 Jan. 1982

Last night was another Lamaze class. We went over the 3 parts of labor – delivery to birth. The first stage is labor and includes 3 stages: 1st – dilation from 0 – 3 centimeters called entertainment phase because the contractions are not uncomfortable enough to be distracting. The second stage is dilation from 4 – 7 centimeters. This is called the active stage. This is the bulk part of labor and the working part. The 3rd stage is from 8 – 10 centimeters and called transition. This is the hardest contractions longest duration of contractions and shortest time between contractions. During transition mothers get grumpy, sick, etc. I don’t remember knowing I was in transition with Beth but I do remember burping a lot (another sign) and being grouchy to Ed. I expect to pay more attention this time. I’m going to try to deliver this baby with no anesthesia at all. The second part is delivery or birth of the child, the third part is delivery of the placenta. We learned the other two breathing techniques for labor & transition. They are different than I learned before so I have to practice them. I’m still stiff and sore from exercises at class but much better than last time. I need to ask the Dr. some questions when I go in on Monday. I hope I don’t gain too much weight. I haven’t been watching too closely. I sure wish I had only 1 wk left instead of 3 or 4 or possibly 5. I am getting clumsy and impatient. Thumper is so active that sometimes the kicks hurt. I can tell the baby’s time is nearly up – I have to go to the bathroom more often – lots more. Today – Beth got her first beauty shop haircut. She looks so cute! Her hair is real short & a little curly. I got a perm. I decided it was time to get away from the short, cutesy styles. I have my suitcase partly packed and the baby’s things are all ready. I have to pack up the things for Ed to take to the hospital to bring the baby home in. I want to get those things done ahead of time. It gives me peace of mind. I got some plastic today so I can cover the bathinette pad and make a pad for the buggy. I still need room for that. I’m really glad Heavenly Father sent this child to live with us!

Posted by: krittikae | May 6, 2011

Mom’s Journal part 2

*editorial note – all spelling, punctuation, and super long paragraphs are solely the work of the author. I type it as I see it.*

28 Nov. 1981

Well, procrastination set in again. It seems I get so busy day to day I neglect my scripture reading and journal writing. I have some free time today so I will catch up. I really like living here in Bryan. The house is nice, we have friends here and the girls enjoy school. Beth has been learning so much in pre-school. I’m really proud of her. She is so smart and cute and very loveable. I’ve been trying to make sure to hug & kiss Andi & Jenny & Beth at least twice a day and tell them I love them, and appreciate their efforts. I think it helps – they are more willing to help around the house. Their faces brighten up and they smile a lot. I’m sure glad I do it. I’m really enjoying being pregnant. We moved to Bryan, Oh. in July of this year.

I’m going to miss being pregnant. It’s such a wonderful feeling to know you have a little child within you. Right now I’m almost 7 mo. pregnant and really only found out 2 mo ago. It’s hard to believe that in less than 3 mos. I’ll be holding this new baby. Motherhood is what I was cut out to be, I guess. The last time I went to the doctor, I gained 9# in a 6 wk period, I’d lost 3# before that so have only gained 6#. I go to the doctor every 2 wks now so that helps the time go faster. Last time when the baby’s heartbeat bump-bumped thru the sound amplifier, it was so strong & even – it really amazed me. This is the first time I ever got to hear a baby’s heartbeat & it really is something! Around the first or middle of January I’m going to get the baby things around. We have to bring the changing table from Ed’s mom’s in Fostoria. I’ll have to make a new pad for it and for the buggy. There’s time later for that. I’ve been busy now making Christmas gifts. I’m trying to make as much as I can.

I can do that with Beth and TamiJo and Sarah but the rest get harder. A friend at church is making some wooden puzzles for me, so that’s one less gift for each one. Hopefully, we’ll have enough money. I’m trying to get one or two things each week. If I have time I’m going to make several pincushion Christmas chairs and see if they’ll set at a craft shop in Fostoria. Maybe I can earn some money for gifts. Just once, I would love to be able to get presents for everyone and not worry about where the money was coming from. Maybe some day!! Ed & I want to send a newsletter to our friends who live far away to get them caught up on our lives. We also want to make special birth announcements. I guess now is the time to do both. Well, this is enough for today. I’m going to be more diligent and keep it up this time!

Mon. Nov. 30, 1981

Didn’t get to write yesterday. Today has been a blah day. I guess Mondays’ always are. I did go thru the Christmas catalog and got some ideas for presents. We did some more decorating tonight. I guess we’ll put the Christmas tree up tomorrow. Beth is really getting excited. All the Christmas decorations really thrill her. I guess from now until whenever will be her most fun time at Christmas time. Next year we’ll have another little one to enjoy. It’s so much fun to be a mother. I really enjoy it. I guess I’m going to order Christmas presents tomorrow or Thursday. Then we’ll be about done. Only a few things will be left. Beth just asked me what I was writing about and when I told her “some things about you”, she said “Oh mom – you’re so thoughtful!” She looks so cute with her hair short. I was so mad at Jenny when she “trimmed” Beth’s hair. She left big chunks out of the back and in order to even it up I had to cut it. It was just getting long & pretty, starting to curl on the ends. But now she looks like a cute little imp. The baby is wiggling & kicking a lot tonight. I can hardly wait until it’s here. Time to go to bed – more later.

18 Dec 1981

The Christmas rush has caught up to me. I still have all my baking to do, plus finish Jen’s outfit and Andi’s outfit. I have Beth’s done but she thinks it’s for Sarah. All I have to do on Jen’s is the hand sewing. I’ve just started Andi’s so I have a lot to do yet. I have to get them done by Tuesday cause that’s the last day of school. I also have to finish Sarah’s pinafore but I can do that in the evenings. I’ve been so busy lately – I crocheted 8 pinchushion chairs: 4 for Mom to give as gifts, 1 for Ed (he gave it to his girlfriend), 1 for Leila, 1 for Judy and one for Maureen Zetterlind’s birthday. I have a lot to do in the short time before Christmas. It seems to be coming fast this year! I didn’t have the Christmas spirit but it snowed yesterday and I feel “Christmasy”. According to the weather report tonight, it’s supposed to stay bitterly coldand snow Tues & Wed so we should have a white Christmas. I need to pick up Ryan & Jason’s gifts, get some wrapping paper and stocking stuffers. Then I’m done! It doesn’t seem like only a week until Christmas. More later.

2 Jan 1982

The holidays were very busy for us but very enjoyable. On the afternoon of Christmas Eve we went to my Mom & Dad’s for supper and to open gifts. It was a mad house with all the kids opening gifts & throwing paper around. Andi got her boots, Jen got her radio & dress, Beth got a record player and some records with books. Ed & I got a toaster oven and blender – both of which we really needed. That night we went to Fostoria to spend the night with Ed’s mom. This is a hard Christmas for her since Ed’s dad died. When we walked into her living room we nearly fell over! It was almost FULL of presents. In fact, when we loaded them in the trunk – it was completely full. We got clothes – I got a blouse, nightgown, housecoat & slippers made by Mom. Ed & the girls got lots of nice stuff too. Oh – also I got a gold chain necklace. Christmas dinner at JoAnne’s was very good but way too much food. I ate a lot of cheese & crackers so wasn’t very hungry. We went to Gram & Gramp Slaughterbeck’s in the evening. They got presents for Andi, Jen, Beth, & Jo & Jim’skids. They didn’t get presents for their other great-grandkids because the others don’t ever visit them. Andi & Jen each got a pair of panty hose (which they really need). Beth got a doll that drinks & wets. Jo & Jim & Ed & I went together and got them a Hickory Farms box.

Posted by: krittikae | May 5, 2011

Mom’s Journal part 1

*editorial note – all spelling, punctuation, and super long paragraphs are solely the work of the author. I type it as I see it.*

10 Aug 1981 to 9 Jan 1983 (written inside the cover)

Favorite Quotes:

No program is worthwhile unless it builds men of character, faith, honor, integrity, strength, testimony. Ezra Taft Benson

It does not matterhow many talents we have; what matters is how we use them. Paul H. Dunn

God gives to man the challenge of raw materials, not the ease of finished things. He leaves the pictures unpainted and the music unsung, and the problems unsolvedthat man might know the joys and glories of creation. Thomas S. Monson

Our greatest responsibility is to develop the gifts and talents with which we are endowed – not only for service in this world, but also for the eternities that are to follow. L Grand Richards

10 Aug 1981

This is the start of my journal. The prophet has told us to keep a journal for our posterity so I’m going to do it. I’ve started several times but this time I’m determined to make it.

My name is Sharon Kae (Good) Stephenson. I was born to Edwin Mitchell Good and Patricia Ann Keller Good. The first home I lived it was an upstairs apartment in Bettsville, Ohio. There was a shallow creek in front of the house and my father used to put on his hip boots, wade the water, leave his boots on the other side and walk to work. The apartment downstairs had one room in the far front of the house – filled wiht parakeets. I think there were about 300 of them in cages all over the room – floor to ceiling. I’m not sure how long we lived in this house, not long I don’t think. The next house we lived in was in the country outside of Kansas, Ohio. It was situated on a curve. I remember where the rooms were in this house. My younger brother Ed Jr. was born while we lived here. We moved again to a fairly large farmhouse on St. Rt. 635 to the west and north of Burgoon, Ohio, almost due north of Kansas. In this house, both my youngery brother Jeffrey Lynn and my sister Leila Kay were born. We lived here until I was in the 8th grade. I remember this house had an old coal furnace. I can remember standing on the floor register to get dressed in the mornings in the winter. The register was in the corner of the kitchen. I remember playing in the basement with a ruler in my mouth. I fell & took a chunk out of the roof of my mouth. (I still have a hole!) I also remember another time when my parents went away & weren’t home when I got home from school. I waited for a while but then got scared because I couldn’t get in the house. The only place unlocked was the coal bin door. I opened it, slid down the coal pile, went upstairs, and crawled in my parents bed. I guess I needed the security. It seemed like forever until they got home but I guess it wasn’t much more than 45 minutes. I’m told when we moved to this house, there was an outhouse that had been torn down but not cleaned up. My brother Ed & I played in the nice “mud”. I guess my mom threw all our clothes, shoes included, in the washer and us in the tub. I had a room of my own & remember lots of fun times here. Like riding the neighbor man’s horse, learning to ride my bike, a bat in the back porch, etc. We moved to a large 4 bedroom house in Burgoon, 3 houses down the street from the church we attended. There were 3 bedrooms, a small junk room, and a bathroom upstairs. Downstairs there were 2 living rooms, dining room, 1 bedroom, kitchen, half bathroom, utility room and fruit pantry. I lived here until I was thru high school. My parents always tried to give me everything they could. I’m sure they did without themselves, to give us kids the things we needed. I met Edward Eugene Stephenson in March 1964. We both took chemistry and my lab partner (Mickey Cunningham) was gone one day. I had this terrible proglem lighting my bunsen burners, I’d either singe my bangs & eyebrows, or the sleeve of my mohair sweater, or the ceiling. I asked Ed to light it for me because he sat on the other side of Mickey. He started walking me to classes and we found out we were in a lot of the same classes. One week later we got our class rings and promptly traded rings. We were “going steady.” We dated until we were married on July 3, 1965. Rev. Gerald Bill, pastor of the Burgoon United Methodist church, married us. We bought a small house in Wayne, Ohio. It had a tiny living room & dining room, 2 bedrooms and a fair sized kitchen. There was no hot water and no bathroom – only an outhouse out back. We were blessed with the birth of our first daughter, Andrea Jean, on February 11, 1967. We enjoyed parenthood very much. We lived in this house for 5 years before we added on & renovated.

11 Aug. 1981

Andi was a very smart child. She loved to read books and we would sit for hours reading stories. At age 2 1/2 she could read newspaper headlines. We’d play cards and other kinds of games – like board games. The Sept. after she was 5 she started kindergarten. She had a wonderful teacher (Mrs. Wright) who realized that Andi was way beyond the rest of the class so in October she started going to 2nd grade for reading. On March she changed to first grade for the second half of the year. Andi adjusted well to this change. She did very well thru grade school and junior high. Freshman year she got average grades, was in flag corps in the band, played flute in concert band. She’s maturing rapidly – no longer a little girl. She & I have had our problems but I love her more than I can say. On Apr 2, 1970 our second daughter, Jennifer Sue, was born. She was totally different from Andi – quiet, petite, and industrious. She is still thin today and vows never to get fat. She is also my good worker, always cleaning and straightening up. She has always gotten A’s & B’s. Last year in school, Jenny was involved in Student council as the Secretary. She was also chosen to be in the pilot program for Gifted & Talented children. She really enjoyed all her activities and was very popular. I fully expect her to be a cheerleader, prom queen or homecoming queen. She is that kind of person.

We joined the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints on Nov. 8, 1972.It was the best thing that happened to me. We were soon given callings. My first calling was Primary chorister. Since then I’ve been Sunday School chorister, CTR teacher, Merris Miss teacher, Sunday School secretary, Jr. Sunday School Coordinator, Primary President, Ward Librarian, Stake Primary Secretary, Stake Primary 2nd Counselor. I’ve also substituted as a teacher in Primary, Sunday School, and Young Women.

We took a trip out west with Sister Verna Rickerd to be sealed in the Provo temple. We were sealed June 25, 1974. When we got into Provo, Helen & Jude (the sister missionaries who taught us the gospel) took us up to see the temple. We saw this young man (Jim Gwyn) riding his bike by thetemple. He lived in Wayne & used to be our paperboy. Our temple experience was wonderful. The “forever mirrors” in the sealing room was so cool We really enjoyed our trip, visiting all the sights, and having fun. It was a memorable, spiritual trip. It was nice that Helen & Jude were both home from their missions so they could be with us. On Feb 19, 1978 our third daughter, Elizabeth Ruth was born. Beth is a lover. She as a baby, would tuck her hands under my arms (at armpits) and that is how she would snuggle. I breastfed her and that was a joy. She was a “natural” baby – a Lamaze baby. Beth is so smart, very cute and sweet & loveable.

15 Oct 1981

I’ve made several attempts in the past to begin my journal, today Iwill try. I have been trying to write my personal history. Yesterday I said no to a magazine salesman and saved us $40.00 a year. I think we can get magazines cheaper somewhere else.

Beth is starting pre-school next Tuesday. She could have started today but I have a lady coming over.Maureen Zetterlind returned my plate and saidshe is going to orient Sis. Booker.

Posted by: krittikae | April 28, 2011

6 months, still going…

It’s been 6 months since Mom died. I haven’t posted anything lately, because pretty much anything I would have had to write about would have just been how much I miss Mom. I still do, every single day.

Two of my close friends are pregnant, and I decided to make each of them a gift – a birth record cross stitch. Looking back, I can remember Mom always making baby blankets for people, or working on half a dozen things at the same time. Her craft basket always seemed like a treasure trove to me.

Anyway, since I was feeling especially close to her, I was rereading some of the posts from my sisters and my aunt. I noticed they want to see Mom’s journal too. Well, seeing as I live at least 1400 miles from any of them, and the Sisterhood of the Traveling Journal would probably cost a lot in postage, I decided to type Mom’s journal in this blog. It’s going to take me awhile. I’ll try to scan some things too, if the scanner cooperates. We don’t have a very high-res scanner in the office, so I’ll try to figure out a different method.

She has several, um, interesting mementos in the back of the journal. An old Mother’s Day card circa 1990 from someone, where they stuck a picture of us girls in it. A program featuring Miss Beth Stephenson in a jazz saxophone ensemble. A flier with me as the November Citizen of the Month …. in 3rd grade. Gosh, I love that woman.

Posted by: krittikae | February 2, 2011

Snow-pocalypse 2011

It’s like 20 degrees in Houston today. While the midwest/east coast is probably already buried under a truckload of snow, we have absolutely no precipitation yet here. But it’s cold. Honest to goodness, even the girl from Ohio is cold. I wore a fleece today. No coat, but I did add gloves.

Naturally that means that people who were born and raised here can’t function. My boss arrived in a heavy wool coat, shivering. There’s also rolling blackouts today all over Houston. We think it’s mostly due to the crazy high winds we’ve been having for 2 days now. At the moment, we have power through the building’s generator. No idea how the rest of Houston is faring, but I had a call from one of my volunteers today. He’s got no power at home, so he isn’t coming in to drive.

That doesn’t make much sense to me. If you’re stuck at home, no lights, no TV, no microwave pizzas, I’d be running for the nearest exit.

We’re making contingency plans at the office to hopefully cover the next few days, what with the power being a very iffy proposition. We’ve got 450 clients that wouldn’t eat without what we bring them, so we’re trying to get our hands on some non-perishables for them.

Keep your fingers crossed that we have plenty of volunteers, plenty of food, and that everyone can stay warm with the power off. Stay toasty everyone!

Posted by: krittikae | January 27, 2011

No More Doritos or Vacation Days

I haven’t felt creative lately. The past few months have been crazy. Emergency flights back home for Mom’s memorial service. Surprise flights to Salt Lake City to spend Christmas with my Dad and sisters – which I can never thank them enough for. I’ve spent a lot of time with friends. I’ve missed my mom every single day.

January has been crazy, because everyone in my office has to squeeze in their remaining vacation days. I’ve had 3 day work weeks, and at one point, I took 6 vacation days in a row. All this time at home has helped me realize a few things.

#1 – I am inherently lazy. Very lazy. Most of my vacation days, I’ve slept in til about noon. I’ve stayed in my pajamas, unless forced to go out. I’ve only cleaned as much as I absolutely had to, and today, I didn’t fold any of the laundry that I promised myself I would. Instead, I played on Facebook, and watched miscellaneous shows off the DVR.

#2 – I really do need human interaction. The first few days off were a welcome relief, as I had conveniently fallen quite sick. I never take sick days if I can help it, so otherwise, I would have been at work with my fever, sore throat, and general miserableness. I’ve realized now that where a few days off are great, this many drive me a bit batty. My craziness falls squarely on the shoulders of my poor husband.

#3 – Nutrition suffers. I can’t tell you how many meals I’ve missed lately. I’m sleeping until 12pm, so breakfast is out the window. I’m not usually hungry when I first wake up, so I drag my heels on eating lunch. What with the aforementioned Facebook and DVR, I tend to get distracted. Then I either eat lunch around 4pm, or convince myself that dinner is coming shortly. If I eat lunch that late, I usually end up skipping dinner. Sometimes I snack instead. That’s why I’m not allowed to have Doritos anymore. Why does less eating never translate into weight loss?

This doesn’t mean I’ve done NOTHING lately. I’ve babysat for a friend, I’ve had the missionaries over for dinner, I’ve grocery shopped, cooked, and even scrubbed my bathtub. But I really value a sense of accomplishment. It makes me feel like I can do anything. I like lists, and I like completing tasks. It’s just that nothing I’ve done lately has given me that sense of achievement. Poor Paul. He’s had to deal with a cranky wife lately.

All this combines to make me glad that I go back to work tomorrow. I’ll actually have at least 2 meals, lunch and dinner, and feel a sense of accomplishment outside my home. I’ll have to wear nice clothes instead of an old shirt and PJ pants. I’ll sleep normal (kind of) hours again. I’m sure my husband will appreciate having his usual wife back.

Posted by: krittikae | October 28, 2010

A Letter to my Mother

As I begin this post, you are in the hospital. When I finish it, you will be gone.


Today is Wednesday, October 27th. You’ve been in the hospital for about two weeks at this point, but you’ve been in and out of the hospital for the past few years. This time was different. More serious. I think you knew it was time. Dad will take you off life support today, and we’ll let you go. We might not make it to your side before you’re gone, but we are all with you, every moment.

Dad won’t be alone. There’s nothing to be afraid of. We’ll keep him near us until it’s time for him to return to you. We have an eternal family, and all of us are so grateful to you and Dad for making that possible.

I was reading your favorite scripture today. “Charity suffereth long, and is kind.” and “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. (1 Cor 13: 4, 11)” I think I understand you better now than I ever have before. I understand some of the choices you’ve made, some of your hopes and fears. I also understand now why this is your favorite scripture. You’ve always done things for others: Dad, us girls, your patients, people around you… That’s always been how you’ve shown your love.

I’ve been wrapped in my memories of you today. I remember when I was little, around 8 or 9. Dad used to drop me off at the nursing home where you worked, and you would take me to school on your way home. Sometimes we’d stop for donuts or brownies. Breakfast of champions, but it was just you and me.

I remember you teaching me things. To read music, play the piano, to knit and sew. You were always so happy working on a project. I can see that now. You were always working on something, with another few things in your knitting basket, waiting for your attention. You taught me to cook and bake, even though I’m pretty sure it wasn’t your favorite thing to do. You taught me how to clean, even though I’m certain it was your least favorite thing to do.

I think our best times together were when I was in school. I know you were proud of me. I loved that you were only an hour away. Sometimes you’d come up for a day of shopping and lunch with me. You came to lots of our college football games. You were always such a great band parent. The other girls always envied me. Did you know that? Did I ever tell you how cool of a mom you are?

Every time I’d come home for a weekend, you’d tell me what food was in the house. I’d roll my eyes and tell you I’m 2- years old, I can find food, but secretly I loved it. You never outgrow wanting your Mom to take care of you. Lots of times you’d have makeup or jewelry that you saw in an Avon catalog, just waiting for me. You’d always say “I saw it and thought of you.” I’m wearing one of those bracelets today. Every time I see it, I think of you. I always will.


Laughter seems wrong, but you know us. We like to laugh and we’re all really funny. We got that from Dad. Will you be mad if we laugh after you’re gone? Today is Thursday, October 28, and you just left us. It was peaceful. Andi was there, and you weren’t in pain. We’re all so grateful for that. We knew, really, that you would only stay as long as you needed… until you were ready. Now you are home, healed, and happy.

Here’s the obituary I wrote for you Mom. I didn’t want a stranger to write it. I wanted it to feel as full of love as you always made us feel. It’s our turn to take care of you. We will always love you. We will be with you again.


Sharon Kae Good Stephenson 9/16/47 – 10/28/10

Sharon Stephenson, age 63, passed away on October 28, 2010 at the Cleveland Clinic in Cleveland Ohio. She was a former resident of Bryan Ohio, where her four daughters graduated from Bryan High School, and spent the latter part of her life in Fostoria Ohio.

A nurse by profession, Sharon spent her life taking care of others, whether it was her patients, her husband and daughters, or her friends and neighbors. Sharon believed that nurturing others showed her love for them, a feeling that is echoed by her favorite scripture. 1 Cor. 13 “Charity suffereth long, and is kind… beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth…”

Sharon spent her free time immersed in hobbies that she loved and shared with her daughters. Sharon had a beautiful singing voice, and often played the piano for her church services. She was also fond of sewing, knitting, and crosstitching, and could often be found making gifts for her family and friends. She loved card games, word puzzles, spending time with her family, and gardening with her husband.

Sharon is survived by her husband of 45 years, Edward Stephenson, by her daughters, Andrea Davidson of South Jordan, UT, Jennifer Adams of West Jordan, UT, Elizabeth Miller of Chino Hills, CA, and Kristen Slawinski of Houston TX. She is also survived by her parents, Edwin and Patricia Good, two brothers, Edwin Good Jr. and Jeffrey Good, a sister, Leila Taylor, and 7 grandchildren.

“But charity is the pure love of Christ, and it endureth forever; and whoso is found possessed of it at the last day, it shall be well with him.” Moroni 7:47

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